Stepmonster - Wednesday Martin


By Wednesday Martin

  • Release Date: 2009-05-04
  • Genre: Parenting


An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children.

When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that “stepmonster” feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role—and empower those who are struggling with it—Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and—in an unexpected twist—shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.


  • Highly recommend!!!

    By nikster8983
    This book has helped me so much. I stumbled across it during a time in my life when I felt I was at a personal crisis, dealing with a tyrant of an 18 year old, egotistical, self-centered stepdaughter who was pushing me to the brink of absolute insanity. I was almost to the point of running away from my marriage to her father whom I love more than life itself. I felt like all the emotions I felt over her made me someone I didn’t know I could ever be. I felt like a “monster” of sorts. A mother of 6 myself, I couldn’t understand how all my efforts with his child made no ground whatsoever. I felt like a complete failure... until this book! I realized I’m not a failure, I’m NORMAL! Healthy even! And it’s OK! I’ve learned how to take a step back and detach myself from taking emotional responsibility for her actions. What a difference this book has made for me. Thank you for writing this book!! Highly recommend!!!
  • Finally, validation.

    By Angelsparx
    As a full time stepmother, I have searched countless times for information regarding the dynamics of a blended home. The feelings, the frustrations, the emotions that are attached to step-children. The underlying energy that is sensed but unspoken. I found this book to be a relief. A validation so that I no longer felt guilty about my reality. It was disheartening to read the statistics in regards to how many stepchildren never truly have a great relationship with their stepmothers unless of course stepmothers lower their expectations. Regardless, I read this book and discussed many parts of it with my husband. I am grateful for this book and the insight it provides on the daily struggles of step-parenting.